We’re on the Explorer of the Seas enjoying the sunshine, food and activities. Last night we attended the ice skating show, which was marvelous. The Osmond Brothers are doing two shows tomorrow night that Wayne is gearing up for.
It’s been relaxing and fun sitting on the balcony reading a book that Michelle’s professor suggested. It’s called “The Introvert Advantage,” by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. We have discussed introverts and extroverts here on the blog before, so I thought it might be interesting to learn more and see how many of you are introverts and how many are extroverts.
The most surprising fact I learned in the book was the statistic that 75% of the people in the world are extroverts. The author states that because ¾ of all people are extroverts, the introverts tend to feel there is something wrong with them and may desire to be extroverts because extroverts seem to be valued more in our society.
“Introversion is at its root a type of temperament. It is not the same as shyness or having a withdrawn personality, and it is not pathological. It is also not something you can change. But you can learn to work with it, not against it.
The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw energy from their internal world of ideas, emotions, and impressions. They are energy conservers. They can be easily over stimulated by the external world, experiencing the uncomfortable feeling of ‘too much.’ This can feel like antsyness or torpor. In either case, they need to limit their social experiences so they don’t get drained. However, introverts need to balance their alone time with outside time, or they can lose other perspectives and connections. Introverted people who balance their energy have perseverance and the ability to think independently, focus deeply and work creatively.
What are the most obvious characteristics of extroverts? They are energized by the external world—by activities, people, places, and things. They are energy spenders. Long periods of hanging out, internal contemplation, or being alone or with just one other person under stimulate them. However, extroverts need to balance their time doing with intervals of just being, or they can lose themselves in a whirlwind of anxious activities. Extroverts offer much to our society—they express themselves easily, they concentrate on results and they enjoy crowds and action.” (“The Introvert Advantage,” by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. page, 19-20.)
The author of the book is an introvert married to an extravert, so she covers relationships, parenting, socializing, the workplace, many coping strategies, ideas on how to manage your energy and tips for thriving in an extrovert world. The book helped me accept and appreciate myself more and offered many ideas and techniques on how to make the most of my life being an Introvert so I can celebrate my introvert advantage.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Please leave a comment so we can all get to know you better.